Life and Career Coach For Men In Midlife
Are you between 35 and 50 and in a high-level job as a manager, senior, partner, director or executive?
Despite your achievements, do you feel bored? Stuck? Trapped? Directionless? and dread the thought of doing the “same old thing” for the rest of your life?
Do you want to talk to someone who understands midlife for men? Someone who will “get you” and get what you’re going through? Someone who can give you new goals, clarity and direction in life?
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Could it be time to try something new? To ‘reinvent’ your career and discover an “unlived life” packed with meaning and purpose within you?
If it’s either of these two, or both, you’ve come to the right bloke.
P. 0427 390 970
I’m your man if you agree with any of these statements:
Career and Work
You don’t find happiness, fulfilment or enjoyment in you job
Your job is “not the right fit”
You’re bored. You’ve achieved all your goals and think “what do I do now?”
You fear you’re not heading in the right direction
There’s no meaning and purpose in what you do
You’re stuck at a crossroads
You want a career change, but think “I have a mortgage and kids” “I’m too old to start over” “I don’t know which direction to take” “I don’t know what else to do” “this is all I know”
You’ve “mentally checked out”
You’ve had enough of the corporate world and want out
You don’t feel valued, appreciated or respected
You stay in the job just for the money or “compromise your integrity for a pay check”
You’re not coping well with the high pressure, politics and competition
You feel like your career has come to a standstill
You’ve hit a glass ceiling and you’ve been passed over for promotions
You don’t respect the company you work for or you and your company have different values
You fear becoming a “company lifer”
You feel like “your job is killing your soul”
The stress from the long hours, heavy workload, and unrealistic expectations at work is “not sustainable”
You have all the symbols of a successful professional career - high-level role, impressive salary, big house, luxury car, yet you feel “empty” “soulless” “hollow” “vacant” or “dead” inside
Life and Lifestyle
You feel “stuck” “trapped” “imprisoned” or “powerless” and “don’t know how to get out.” You want to escape with thoughts of “if only…”
You dread life’s monotony “the constant treadmill” “the daily grind” and “the same old thing”
You’re “locked in a lifestyle” or “suffocated by your lifestyle”
You “don’t have your life under control”
You feel confused, lost or uncertain about your future
You feel like you’re “playing a character” “following rules” or “following a script” in life
You’ve “ticked all the boxes” and feel like “you should be happy” but you’re not
You feel like you’re “living someone else’s life” living up to the expectations of parents, colleagues or society
You make decisions because they look good, but they’re not for you
You feel a deep sense that “something's missing”
You fear your own death or feel that your “time is running out” or “life is passing you by”
You’re weighing up past life choices, sacrifices and trade-offs you’ve made
You compare yourself to others who are following a more meaningful path
You’ve lost contact with friends
You feel disconnected, isolated, inadequate, “on your own” or alone
Partner and Family
You’ve had a recent relationship break-up, separation, divorce or loss
You’re either in “dad mode” or “work mode” but wonder “who am I?” underneath?
You feel like “its just work and home” there is no “life”
You’re in “survival mode” “struggling to find time” “organising daily logistics” and “putting out spot fires”
Your partner is not happy with you working long hours
You’re not present with your partner or kids
You’re parents are ageing and you’re grappling with “how much do you put your life on hold” to look after them versus “living your own life”
Family life is demanding. You’re the “breadwinner” and “provider” but feel “burdened” “anchored” “bound” “limited” or “weighed down” by financial pressures, duty, responsibilities and dependants
Physical Health and Mental Health
You’ve got physical health problems - you’re overweight, unfit, have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, headaches, shingles, skin conditions (hives, eczema), irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), stomach problems (gas, pain, bloating, acid reflux, diarrhoea), or suffer from neck, shoulder, hip or back pain
You feel rundown, fatigued, exhausted, “physically shot” or burnt out
You’re “mentally frustrated,” depressed, stressed or anxious
You’re feeling “numb” and don’t care about anything - even the things you used to care about a lot
You feel like you could have a mental breakdown
You’re angry at the moment and find yourself having a “short fuse”
You have frequent insomnia or don’t sleep well
You cope by smoking, vaping, drinking, over eating, using drugs or gambling
Is this you?
(This is a common client situation)
You’re aged 42 to 45, with a wife and two to three kids aged 3 to 12.
You’re a manager, executive or director in IT, planning, construction or sales and have been in your current job for 7-15 years.
You’re on a good wicket. You’ve got a comfortable lifestyle, go on nice holidays, head to the beach house or family farm for school hols and get out on the road bike or golf course occasionally.
Your last child has just started long day care or primary school. Your wife, who did the lion’s share of the parenting, now with free time, has gone back into the workforce or has started a new career, and is out gymming, doing Pilates or socializing. While your wife, with her new freedoms, has a spring in her step and a new lease of life, for you it’s the opposite.
At home, you don’t feel needed like you used to. Your wife’s attention is on friends instead of you. You’ve lost contact with your mates. Physically, you feel old and your body aches. Being fit and strong is a distant memory. At work, you’ve achieved all your goals and think “now what do I do?” The result is that at work you’re bored and feel trapped in the monotony of the “daily grind” and “the same old thing.” It all feels pointless.
The whole situation leaves you feeling stuck, confused, numb and “on your own.” You don’t know how to resolve the problem or what direction to take to get out of it. You don’t know any different than “doing mode” so doing more at work feels like the only strategy. So, you work bigger hours, compete for promotions and demand pay rises. But that doesn’t resolve the problem. As a last resort, you have fantasies of escaping from it all; into nature, buying a farm or dropping out of life entirely.
You want to talk about it but can’t explain why you feel like you do and anyway “nobody would get it.”
Your wife, colleagues or friends notice that you’re not your usual self. They say “you should see a life coach or career coach.” They may even look up coaches for you and give you recommendations. But, you tell yourself “you shouldn’t feel like this” and put off looking into it.
But then usually after physical health problems or fears of your own death, things hit a whole new level - you look up a coach and give me a call.
Life doesn’t have to be like this.
There is a better way.
What makes me different from all the other coaches?
Credibility
Knowledge
Service
What have you got to lose?
P. 0427 390 970
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About Me
I’ve been in your shoes, so I understand what you’re going through, and I know how to help.
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Coaching Model
Getting you what you want in midlife.
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