Midlife Coaching Model

Do you want more meaning? Do you want more freedom? Do you want to feel alive? Do you want to be healthy? Do you want to be happy? If that’s a yes, then midlife coaching is for you.

“Reinvention: To remake or make over into something entirely new.”

I offer two midlife coaching services: Midlife Life Coaching and Midlife Career ‘Reinvention’ Coaching. Both coaching services are based around a proven midlife coaching model. You will find the coaching model below.

1) Midlife Life Coaching

This is generally phase 1 and 2 of the coaching model. It’s about meeting you where you are, being a “sounding board” “an external third party” “shining a light on things” “giving you a second opinion” and helping you understand your situation (phase 1). Then we work on recalibrating (phase 2) your work and life to: “get you thinking the right way” “score yourself differently” “take the pressure off” “reduce stress” “free up breathing space” “recharge” and make you happier.

2) Midlife Career ‘Reinvention’ Coaching

After doing phases 1 and 2, you can choose to reinvent your career by following phases 3, 4 and 5. With phase 2 giving you “breathing space” you now have the time to think about your big picture long term plans (phase 3), then work out how to let go of your old career (phase 4), take an optional career holiday “time out” and finally, reinvent yourself into a new career (phase 5).

Building The Coaching Model

Being alongside men’s midlife coaching journeys over the past 5 years, I realised that organically, all men go through a similar midlife coaching process. They have similar problems, they get stuck in the same places, they use similar language, they like metaphors (especially sporting, construction and mechanical ones), they like simplicity, and they generally take the same steps through coaching. Believe it or not, we might think we’re different, but us blokes are surprisingly similar cats.

So, I extracted this process, including the coaching “tools” and techniques that were useful. It translated into a 5 phase coaching model. Phases 1 and 2 generally seemed to be about life. Phases 3, 4 and 5 generally seemed to be about reinventing their career.

The Coaching Model is a Road Map

I’ve found men want to know where they are going. So, the intention of the coaching model is to: 1) Provide the practical steps, language, the tools and “road map” for coaching; 2) Layout the journey so they know what to expect in advance which reduces the uncertainty of change; and 3) To normalise the coaching process and demonstrate to men that midlife coaching is not scary, unknown or not doable, there is a process to it, other men have done it and it works.

How To Use The Coaching Model

The model gives you an understanding of the coaching process you will go through. It acts as a “baseline” or “anchor” to keep you “on track.” During coaching, if you want to know what step to take next, just return to the coaching model for direction.

But the model is only a ‘general’ approach to coaching. Its not a “cookie-cutter” or “one-size-fits-all” approach. You are unique. So, I adapt and tailor the model, and draw on other coaching tools and techniques outside the model to fit you and your specific individual circumstances.

Midlife Coaching Model

Midlife Coaching Timeline

Below, I have laid out the “road map” through the 5 phases, so you have the detail of what it looks like, how it works and what you get out of it.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • Corporate Professionals: Executives, Managers (Senior, Operations, General), Consultants, Partners, Associates, Directors.

    In these Industries: Construction, Engineering, Mental Health, Medical, Sales/Marketing, Legal, IT, Telecom’s, Town Planning, Accounting. But, the process of midlife coaching is applicable across all industries.

    and Aged:

    • 35-40, single or partnered. Generally, seek coaching to recalibrate their life and career before they’re married and have kids.

    • 35-55, married with kids. Generally, seek coaching to find a career with more meaning, and make it more sustainable so they spend more time with their partner and kids. The most typical age here is 42, married with 2 or 3 kids age 2-9 years.

    • 35-55, not interested in marriage and kids. Generally, seek coaching to find more meaning.

  • Generally, men like to meet once a month. However, coaching appointments can be tailored to your circumstances.

  • Depending on supports, financial resources and family responsibilities, reinvention can take anywhere from two weeks to two years.

  • This blog explains what a midlife crisis is. A midlife crisis ‘can’ be the precursor to a midlife career reinvention.

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