Midlife Coaching Model

Do you want more meaning? Do you want more freedom? Do you want to feel alive? Do you want to be healthy? Do you want to be happy? If that’s a yes, then midlife coaching is for you.

“Reinvention: To remake or make over into something entirely new.”

I offer two midlife coaching services: Midlife Life Coaching and Midlife Career Coaching. Both coaching services are based around a proven midlife coaching model. You will find the coaching model below.

1) Midlife Life Coaching

This is generally phase 1 and 2 of the coaching model. Phase 1 is about helping you understand your situation. It’s about me acting as a “sounding board” and “an external third party” then offering you new information by “shining a light on things” “looking at it from a different point of view” “coming at it from a different angle” “giving you a different perspective” or “giving you a second opinion.” Once we’ve got clarity on your situation (phase 1), we then work on recalibrating (phase 2) your work and life to: “get you thinking the right way” “score yourself differently” “take the pressure off” “reduce stress” “free up breathing space” “recharge” and make you happier.

2) Midlife Career Coaching

After doing phases 1 and 2, you can choose to change or reinvent your career by following phases 3, 4 and 5. With phase 2 giving you “breathing space” you now have the time to think about your big picture long term plans (phase 3), then work out how to let go of your old career (phase 4), take an optional career holiday “time out” and finally, change or reinvent yourself into a new career (phase 5).

Building The Coaching Model

Being alongside men’s midlife coaching journeys over the past 5 years, I realised that organically, all men go through a similar midlife coaching process. They have similar problems, they get stuck in the same places, they use similar language, they like metaphors (especially sporting, construction and mechanical ones), they like simplicity, and they generally take the same steps through coaching. Believe it or not, we might think we’re different, but us blokes are surprisingly similar cats. So, I extracted this process, including the coaching “tools” and techniques that were useful. It translated into a 5 phase coaching model. Phases 1 and 2 generally seemed to be about life. Phases 3, 4 and 5 generally seemed to be about reinventing their career.

The Coaching Model is a Road Map

I’ve found men want to know where they are going. So, the intention of the coaching model is to: 1) Provide the practical steps, language, the tools and “road map” for coaching; 2) Layout the journey so they know what to expect in advance which reduces the uncertainty of change; and 3) To normalise the coaching process and demonstrate to men that midlife coaching is not scary, unknown or not doable, there is a process to it, other men have done it and it works.

How To Use The Coaching Model

The model gives you an understanding of the coaching process you will go through. It acts as a “baseline” or “anchor” to keep you “on track.” During coaching, if you want to know what step to take next, just return to the coaching model for direction.

But the model is only a ‘general’ approach to coaching. Its not a “cookie-cutter” or “one-size-fits-all” approach. You are unique. So, I adapt and tailor the model, and draw on other coaching tools and techniques outside the model to fit you and your specific individual circumstances.