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Are You Caught in The “Stuck Loop”?
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Are You Caught in The “Stuck Loop”?

Feeling: Bored? Stuck? Trapped? Directionless? If you’re feeling these things, it’s not because there is something wrong. Quite the opposite. It’s because there is something right. You’re feeling bored…stuck…trapped…because your Project 1 has ended. Your symptoms are all telling you Project 1 is complete. Now, Project 1 is done, Project 2 is on the horizon waiting for you to go lead it.

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Why is Finding ‘Meaning In Life’ so Important?
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Why is Finding ‘Meaning In Life’ so Important?

There are nearly 8 billion people on this planet. They all have something in common. They all have a body part named after one man: Achilles. Achilles is immortal. He’s never truly died, nor ever will. Isn’t that what we all want; for people to remember us after we’re gone? But people remembering us is just one part of the meaning story.

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Many Men Get To a Point In Their Life Where They Say "It's Not Sustainable"
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Many Men Get To a Point In Their Life Where They Say "It's Not Sustainable"

"It's not sustainable." Is a phrase I hear often from men aged 35-50. They say it because of something along the lines of this scenario: Between the ages of 35-50, seemingly out of nowhere, they start to get physical health problems. At some point, these physical health problems produce a “wake up call” that scares them shitless. “Its not sustainable” they say. The “wake up call” prompts them to reinvent their life to make it more sustainable.

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We Are Hard-Wired to Climb the Social Ladder, But it Actually Makes us Unhappy
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We Are Hard-Wired to Climb the Social Ladder, But it Actually Makes us Unhappy

All of us in some way wants: To have the title “director” “senior” “associate” or “CEO.” To have a big income. To drive a Porsche Cayenne. And To have 10,000 followers on Instagram. Why? Because these things display our status at the top of the social ladder. And the top of the ladder gets us success, prestige, respect, importance, fame and power. We believe this stuff will make us happy. But, the truth is, it doesn’t.

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“I Wish I Hadn’t Worked So Hard” Was The Regret of Every Dying Man, In Bonnie Wares Book The 5 Regrets of The Dying
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“I Wish I Hadn’t Worked So Hard” Was The Regret of Every Dying Man, In Bonnie Wares Book The 5 Regrets of The Dying

Bonnie worked with dying patients in palliative care. At the end of their life, she asked them if they had any regrets. Bonnie says “The regret ‘I wish I hadn’t worked so hard’ came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.” Bonnie tells the tale of the exact scenario I find so many dads in. The question is: why? Why do some dads work so hard and not spend time with their wife and kids? It turns out, there are 29 reasons.

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5 Things That Cause Anxiety in Midlife
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5 Things That Cause Anxiety in Midlife

There are 5 things that generate life anxiety. In other words, anxiety about the simple act of day-to-day living. These are: (1) The Fear of Death; (2) Longing for Freedom; (3) Identity - Who am I?; (4) Lifes Meaning and; (5) Fear of being Alone

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Feeling Stressed? Ask Yourself These Questions
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Feeling Stressed? Ask Yourself These Questions

When I’m stressed I ask myself a series of questions. Writing down the answers to the questions and taking action on the items immediately helps me to feel less stressed. I wanted to share my stress reducing process in case it could be useful for you.

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Reading 300 Non-Fiction Books Took Me Through 7 Levels of Self-Awareness
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Reading 300 Non-Fiction Books Took Me Through 7 Levels of Self-Awareness

In 2013, age 29, I read my first non-fiction book. Now, in 2023, 10 years later, age 39, I’ve read 300 non-fiction books. My motivation to read non-fiction wasn’t to increase my self-awareness. Rather, I set out to read just as a way to be better at work. I didn’t expected to learn about myself. Self-awareness was an unexpected but handy by-product.

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How Do You Find Work That Makes You Happy?
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How Do You Find Work That Makes You Happy?

Have you spent years searching for jobs that will make you happy? Only to find, that time and time again you come up short? After years of coaching, I have seen what makes people happy in their work. In this blog, I offer you the 8 components that will make you happy in your work.

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Managing Your Anger
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Managing Your Anger

Do you ever get angry? Lose your temper? Then feel ashamed for what you said or did? You’ll find this blog useful to manage your anger.

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Are You Having a Midlife Crisis?
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Are You Having a Midlife Crisis?

A Midlife Crisis is a turning point, usually following a series of events, between the ages of 35 and 45 years old, where an important questioning, review and assessment of ‘life so far’ is carried out and changes are made that will determine the future of ones life until death.

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How Can I Reduce Stress?
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How Can I Reduce Stress?

Science has proven STRESS can cause osteoporosis, stomach ulcers, weight gain, reduced immune system function and disease. The DANGERS are real. In this blog you will find, not just ‘how to reduce stress’ but also ‘what stress is’ and ‘why its there.’

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Resources For Parents
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Resources For Parents

I work three days a week (wed, thur, fri) as a primary school wellbeing counsellor. This blog is packed with useful information for parenting.

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